My little journey in this has revealed a great deal of discovery, some of which cannot be captured on pages. I trust to reach out, anyhow as you continue below.
"I have discovered that love doesn't guarantee the success of a relationship. 'Love' cannot help you stick to one person all instances, you need more that to survive in this life; and on the other hand, being a little out proportions isn't always a product of enmity.
Caring about someone deeply doesn't mean falling in love with someone else. Relationships work out mostly because of our intelligence and personal comfort and not our hearts. And the opposite is also true. Emotional maturity, empathetic intelligence, and self-consciousness and discipline.
Like the saying goes; " the beautiful ones are yet to be born". Very true indeed, but always remember this: "beauty is in the eyes of the beholder".
There will surely be better ones. You will see more beautiful, handsome, romantic, intelligent, sexy, rich, curvy and godly people than the one you're in a relationship with or even your spouse. It's only Self-control that will help you. Emotional intelligence will come to your rescue and commitment will keep you going in spite of the situation.
With those characteristics, no matter how you feel for someone else, the person you're committed to will rank first in your life.
- You think happily married people don't see better people than the ones they married to?
- You think they don't feel funny sometimes?
- You think they don't catch feelings?
My little one they do! Commitment is greater than feelings and it is the greater force that destroys those unhelpful impulses. You can fall in love with anyone, but building a relationship takes absolutely more than what attracted you to them and takes more than love. We are too fond of loving when it's convenient and sweet. We are too fond of loving when love is there, but that can only last for just the first few months!
What next!? Dropping down.
Everything in life takes 'hard work' Relationships cannot be readymade. You have to build it and it's never always about love, it requires commitment and emotional intelligence. On the long run in marriages, it is not just love that keeps them together, determination and commitment are what binds them.
Anyone can fall in love; fools do! You know why? It takes little or no effort to do that. But staying in love? Building a relationship? Only the strong and committed ones do that. That's why we must find that one person and commit to that one, discipline yourself and bridle your emotions. It's always tough. At some point, it will be so bitter but you can make it work by putting your heads together. You can scale through the trying times by staying focused and committed. The kind of love that attracts two people together is not the kind of love that will keep them together.
Simple, be emotionally strong, have self disciplined and above all, have the God factor that will give you the grace needed to reign you. My love for you pushes me to extra miles for the benefit of humanity - you!